As an American, I am blessed to live in a region of the country that is both visually and culturally rich. As a small town, Doylestown is nestled between Philadelphia and New York. Like many of its’ inhabitants, I am an urban transplant, moving here from New York 20 years ago.
Times have changed much in Doylestown and the surrounding area since 1990. Like most American towns, it has been impacted by changes and shifts in societal and cultural values, as well as economic upswings and recessionary downturns.
Like other American towns, Doylestown’s inhabitants reflect the times we live in. In times of economic downturns many of them are distressed, anxious, worried and worst of all: living in fear.
One of the main elements I teach as a life coach and business coach, especially when clients live their life from a fearful perspective, is to look at what appear to be obstacles as opportunities for positive growth and transformation.
Life, be it on Main Street in Doylestown or 5th Avenue in New York, isn’t always easy. It’s rules however, are intended to be simple. It is you and I who tend to make it complicated. Life is simplified and made easy when you and I get out of our own way!
Most of my local coaching clients live and work in the vicinity of Doylestown. Some have careers employed by small, local companies. Others are small (and in some cases medium-sized and large) business owners. No matter who they are, single, married, divorced, what their educational or religious background is, they all seem to be at a point in their life that represents a transition.
This transition that many of my clients are experiencing places them in a precarious position. It literally feels like being on the open waters of the ocean without a life preserver. It’s either sink or swim or the sharks are gonna get ya!
When obstacles appear in your life and you give your personal power over to them, you will sink. Treat them as opportunities, and you’ve begun to swim. When I collaborate with clients, I am throwing them an emotional life preserver.
So, what are some of the obstacles my clients who live in the beautiful hamlet of Doylestown facing today? Well, for one thing, uncertainty about their futures. The future of their finances, their relationships and their physical and emotional well-being.
It is no longer about achieving the ‘American Dream.’ It’s no longer about what you have to have and what and who is missing from your life. It’s not about beating yourself up because of so-called failures and shortcomings. It’s no longer about convincing yourself that ‘I should be further along at this stage of my life,’ and ‘I have to be somebody!’
It is about having peace of mind and cultivating stronger bonds with other human beings! It’s about feeling good about who you are! It’s about co-operating with rather than competing against others personally and in business! It’s about wanting to jump out of bed in the morning and making a real difference!
You see, everyone who hires me or Chris as a life coach does so for one reason, and one reason only: they want to re-connect with themselves; the person that somehow got lost in the shuffle while traveling on the highway of life and forgot that life was meant to be easy.
When times seem tough, as they appear for far too many here in Doylestown, Pennsylvania and elsewhere, the solution always lies in our own personal strengths as individuals. Together, through collaboration, we can turn the depths of despair into mountains of hope and optimism and some damn good results!
However, no matter what your current circumstances are, it has to start with you! And why is that? Because the only aspect of your life that you can truly control is you. And we control ourselves and the results we achieve, by the choices we make.
Chris and I always remind our clients how powerful they really are when it comes to creating positive change and transformation in and for their lives.
Life can be easy. Life can be hard. You can be down and out or up and in the game. I have experienced both scenarios countless times throughout my life. I now choose easy. I now choose up and in the game of life.
Yes, times may be tough. However, you do not have to choose to buy in to that notion. I know a great many people in these ‘tough times’ who refuse to buy in to pessimism and hang with the ‘down and out’ crowd.
As a fellow human being and as someone who genuinely cares, I appeal to the you who knows there is hope for a positive shift in your life and your life situation.
Over the years, Chris and I have witnessed miracles, both personally and with clients. No obstacle will be given to you or I that either one of us cannot handle. All it really requires is preparation. And how do you prepare? For my life coaching clients, be they in Doylestown, Pennsylvania, Eau Claire, Wisconsin or Oxfordshire, England, the response is always the same: to be truly prepared means you consciously choose to see everyone and everything that appears in your life as a blessing. Know that a blessing is an opportunity to share your strengths with others so that they too can be uplifted and then pass their strengths on to others, and so on and so on. Regardless, it has to start with you through preparation and the courage to take action.
Decide today, no matter what your circumstances, no matter where you live in the world, no matter what your personal history is about, to make a personal commitment that from this moment forward, you are preparing for a new way of living your life. You are choosing what’s really important for you.
Keep me posted! I love to hear about miracles!