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The Seasons of Life | self-care

Many years ago, a wise woman said to the two of us, “Take your cues from nature.”

Seasons of Life

By taking our cues from nature, we acknowledge and recognize the flow of life that exists in all of Life, which includes each of us.

Every living thing experiences a cycle of change. There are periods of expansion and periods of contraction. There is no exception to this rule: it is Universal Law.

The four seasons are nature’s way of mirroring back to each of us the flow of Life and how it operates effortlessly.

In Autumn, we give thanks and express gratitude and appreciation for abundance. By taking our cues from nature, we can also acknowledge and recognize our own personal flow and expansion.

We each expand and grow; not only physically, but intellectually and spiritually. The results we receive in life are our own personal harvest. What we reap is determined by what we sow. As humans, we have the great capacity to create different harvests if we do not like the one we previously reaped.

The smaller cycles of our individual lifetimes are broken down into smaller denominations or time periods: decades, years, months, weeks, days, hours, minutes, seconds. Within these cycles are periods of expansion and periods of contraction too. Expansion is growth, creativity, and productivity. Contraction is slowing down, looking inward and rest.

As the nights of October grow longer, it is a cue from nature that we, too, are part of nature and want to respond to the changes in the cycle of Life.

As winter approaches and it appears that all is silent and still, know that nurturing is going on throughout the natural world in preparation for the next cycle of expansion that will occur in the Spring.

Our lifetimes are our Summertime when we each create and manifest countless experiences, situations, and relationships. It is the time of growth. It is the time for your personal growth!

Autumn begins a period of contraction. Much of life appears to be going to sleep; it is now entering a period of apparent dormancy. However, beneath the surface of the seemingly quiet: life continues, resting and replenishing itself for the next cycle of expansion.

Like all of Life, we also require rest. We each experience this daily with a good night’s sleep. On a larger scale, the calendar indicates we may require more rest to replenish ourselves so we can produce a variety of abundant outcomes in our own lives.

Some of the most beneficial and efficient ways to rest, replenish and re-vitalize is through the process of self-care. Self-care is not something you practice seasonally; it is an avocation you want to master on a regular basis to keep your energy levels at peak performance year-round.

Self-care is about nurturing ourselves. How you demonstrate it is up to you. The “how” is unimportant. What IS important, is that you do it.

Here are some suggestions on how to nurture yourself more and provide re-vitalization to yourself at all levels of your Being:

1. Schedule “me” time. You might have to “pencil yourself in” to your daily schedule. This is essential year-round and particularly so during the upcoming holiday season when we tend to sacrifice our own well-being and desires to please everyone else. “Me” time can be anything from exercising, reading, meditating, or enjoying a hobby. Do not confuse self-care for selfishness. They are not the same thing!

2. Consider focusing on “doing” less. When we put too much on our plates, we usually ignore ourselves, deplete our energy and make ourselves sick in a variety of ways: physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

3. Learn to say “No” and perhaps delegate more. Focus on the important, not the trivial. This is called: prioritizing.

4. Sleep more. Longer nights provide an opportunity for more sleep. The animal kingdom hibernates and for a very good reason: it knows it is time to rest in preparation for the next cycle of growth and expansion.

By adopting a “taking my cues from nature” approach for living your life, you will witness tremendous benefits. The four seasons are the perfect reminder that all of Life, be it as infinite as the Universe or as minute as an insect, experiences expansion, creativity, and growth, as well as contraction, rest, and dormancy.

By learning to personalize this process you will experience more flow in your life. This will place you in a higher, more vibrant level of Being thus resulting in a more fulfilling and enjoyable life experience.

Light a candle and nurture yourself. Take a deep breath in and blow it out. By doing so you have demonstrated how you are taking your cues from nature. The breath is the greatest demonstration of expansion and contraction. Now, be open to this same process in all the other areas of your life.

One way of providing yourself with the ultimate self-care regimen is to contact us for your complementary coaching session.

Another way is to join our monthly Zoom Book Club called Infinite Possibilities? You can join any time. It is held the second Thursday of each month. You are invited to join in on the conversation whether you’ve read the book of not! Learn more here.

Jon Satin and Chris Pattay – The Possibility Coaches™
©2021 Possibility Coaches, LLC

The Power of Acceptance

Acceptance is the key to inner peace! One of the great lessons of my life has been to not hold on to disappointments: they act like a heavy ball and chain.


So many may be deeply disappointed and disheartened by the events of the 2016 US Presidential election.

I have found that the best antidote to disappointment is acceptance. Without acceptance we stay mired in the unchangeable and stuck in the past. With acceptance we can move on and create different results and brighter tomorrows. It is only with acceptance that we can see the silver lining in the cloud. It is only with acceptance that we can grieve the disappointment and begin to let it go.

With acceptance we begin to dissolve our anger, resentment, rage and disillusionment. We move from “why did this happen?” to “this happened for a reason and I am open to seeing it through and learning what that reason is.”

Acceptance falls into many categories: acceptance of yourself, of others, of outcomes and of situations we cannot control. Acceptance does not mean that we do not set boundaries, do not care or become apathetic. Acceptance is something we do for ourselves so that we can gain a level of inner peace and calmness. By accepting a situation as “temporary,” we can create an inner space where desired outcomes become reality.

There is a reason the events of November 8, 2016 happened. It serves a purpose. In fact, it can have multiple purposes. The biggest purpose that I see (and I have discussed this with others over the last several years) is that our country still contains a highly racist and bigoted collective.

Truthfully, friends, the events of this day are a golden opportunity for each of us to look in the mirror and take responsibility for what we truly believe. Being prejudice and bigoted doesn’t mean someone is bad; it means they are in some way deeply wounded. Prejudice and bigotry are aspects of fear.

There is a saying that goes something like this: “you cannot give away what you do not have.” In other words, if you are full of hatred, anger, resentment and feel left out, you will project how you feel onto the world. On the other hand, if you feel love in your heart, possess compassion, empathy toward everyone, and genuinely appreciate all that you have and who you are, then that is what you will share with the world.

Therefore, it is the responsibility of each of us to be open and willing to look within and see what we find. Sometimes we don’t like what we find, yet when we get deeply honest with ourselves we can begin to clean up our inner “house” and create real change for ourselves and the world.

One of my heroes, Mahatma Gandhi said it best: “Be the change you want to see.” If we want America to be the shining star that everyone looks up to we must look within and see where we need to shine the light. As a nation we have not yet done this. We continue to sweep under the carpet our darkest feelings toward others both past and present.

Until we get brutally honest with ourselves as a nation: bigotry, prejudice, hatred, resentment and blame will continue. We have made mistakes, both individually and collectively. It is time to admit our mistakes and shortcomings, take responsibility for allowing them to misguide us, and then let them go once and for all.

We will see what unfolds in the coming days, months and years. This is my appeal to each and every one of you who reads this: look deep into your heart. Stop waiting for someone else to change. The truth is our politicians are not our leaders, they are paid servants of the people. We the people are the leaders; therefore, we as leaders must lead by example. What example are you setting for the rest of us? I have great confidence that it will be one that exemplifies the highest values and virtues: compassion, ethics, integrity, kindness and good-will to everyone. Bless you all!

Jon Satin and Chris Pattay – The Possibility Coaches™
©2016 Possibility Coaches, LLC