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Creating a Permission Manifesto for Happiness!

Who decides whether or not we are happy? Who decides whether or not we feel at peace with ourselves? Who decides whether or not we see ourselves as successful contributors in this world?

The answer, for each of us, to all of the above questions, is “I DO.”

Permission Manifesto
Permission Manifesto

We are each responsible for our own happiness, peace of mind and success. It is when we refuse to take responsibility for our happiness, peace of mind and success, we suffer emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Most people, rather than take responsibility for their life, choose to blame. They blame other people and circumstances for their unhappiness, stress and so-called failures.

Let’s face it: it’s easier to point fingers than it is to take responsibility for where we are today and where we’d like to be tomorrow.

The truth is that life happens. It is part of the human experience. It’s what we all signed up for.

The challenge most of us face is that we are trained and conditioned to focus on what’s wrong with our lives rather than what could be. As children, we hear adults whining and complaining about how bad things are, what’s wrong with other people and how life is one struggle after another.

Bad attitudes and negative mindsets are contagious. The good news, however, is good attitudes and positive mindsets are contagious, too.

There is only one thing we each have to “do” to change our attitude and mindset: create what we call a “Permission Manifesto.” A manifesto is a declaration. When we declare anything, we put it into motion and our lives begin to change.

You see, until we give ourselves permission to be happy, be at peace and experience success, they will all elude us.

A permission manifesto is like your own personal decree; like your very own Declaration of Independence.

And what are you declaring your independence from: feeling down, being stressed and anxious, the past with all of its’ regrets and resentments?

A permission manifesto is a starting point where we all begin to live our lives on our own terms. It is where we give ourselves permission to develop the qualities within us that will allow us to shine, express our talents and gifts, and live our lives with greater zest and intensity.

We have written on numerous occasions that “happiness is a decision” and that we are each one decision away from experiencing it.

By giving yourself permission to experience happiness, inner peace and success, you will literally change your genetic makeup and DNA. Don’t take our word for it: scientists are now identifying this as verifiable fact.

A permission manifesto will make you feel better, look better, do more with less effort and create an all-around positive energy field for you.

Creating a permission manifesto is easy. All that is required is deciding how you want your life to be, how you want to feel most of the time and then allowing yourself to experience what it is you desire.

To get you started, here are some generic permission manifesto statements that almost everyone would want to experience in their lives:

“I now give myself permission to be happier.”

“I now give myself permission to experience more loving relationships.”

“I now give myself permission to do what I love and love what I do.”

“I now give myself permission to experience more inner peace, calmness and serenity.”

“I now give myself permission to thrive and prosper in all areas of my life.”

These are just a few examples you can include in your personalized permission manifesto. We challenge you to create your own permission manifesto. Read it daily. Print it out and place it strategically around your home: on a bathroom mirror or the refrigerator door.

Share your permission manifesto with a friend, a mentor or someone who is uplifting and encouraging. Share it with the two of us! We’d love to hear from you!

©2015 Possibility Coaches LLC

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permission

Make Happiness Your New Addiction

We all know someone who has an addiction: a spouse that drinks too much, an overweight child, a parent who lives on painkillers. Or a friend that shops and spends in excess and can’t seem to stop.

Addicted to Happiness
Addicted to Happiness

In our lives, we have both personally experienced a variety of addictions. The content of our past addictions is really secondary. We have each openly discussed our past in various lectures and talks, radio shows, articles and blogs so we won’t go into details here.

What’s primary is why we experienced these addictions. What caused us to seek pleasure outside ourselves? And, consider this: are these actual addictions or are these simply symptoms of one addiction that most humans suffer from?

Ask yourself, ‘Why do I seek out external pleasures that I usually regret, am remorseful about or hate myself for?’

Could the answer to this one loaded question be ‘because I am addicted to unhappiness?’

From our own personal stories, the two of us can clearly see the truth in that statement. We are all raised to some degree to believe that unhappiness is ‘normal.’

Unhappiness, which is a result of suffering, is seen as noble. We have been brainwashed to believe that playing the victim and being at the mercy of life circumstances and events, is somehow our karmic destiny. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Actually, the opposite is true. To be happy is our birthright. It is our natural state. Being unhappy, therefore, is unnatural. And because unhappiness is unnatural, it adversely affects our total well-being in our mind, body and spirit.

You can be happier!
You can be happier!

In our attempt to numb, deaden and even eliminate the feeling of unhappiness, we seek happiness outside ourselves. For some of us the pain is so intense, we choose dangerous alternatives such as drugs or alcohol. For others, it’s physical or emotional abuse or dead-end relationships that reinforce the addiction to unhappiness. And still for some, it is about sabotaging any good when it comes our way because happiness feels so alien to the ‘unhappiness addict.’

We are suggesting something of great significance here: that all your so-called ‘problems’ stem from an addiction to unhappiness. Now, we will back up for a moment and say that ‘yes, life includes suffering!’

We all suffer because we somehow cannot accept that everything and everyone, including ourselves, is temporary in nature. Life, in all its’ forms, is transient and always changing. We fear the end result which we call death. Acceptance of our temporary nature is the first step that allows us to break away from the addiction to unhappiness.

Through a variety of processes, we can each transform ourselves from being addicted to unhappiness to making happiness our new addiction.

Being happy doesn’t mean you never experience sadness. It does mean, however, you develop a greater sense of gratitude, appreciation and love for others, yourself and Life as a whole. A shift from unhappiness to happiness changes your whole life for the better. You ‘go with the flow’ so-to-speak. You rise above any situation, experience and circumstance. When you experience let-downs, allow yourself to feel sad. Grieve , if necessary. Yet, at the end of the day, realize what happened to you doesn’t define who you are.

The addiction to unhappiness takes years to develop. Through childhood, adolescence and into adulthood, we each experience suffering in a variety of ways. This is the human condition. It is inevitable and inescapable.

Yet, we each possess the power to become addicted to happiness. Like our addiction to unhappiness, this addiction will take some time to establish itself in your life.

In order for happiness to become your new norm, you must fulfill some requirements that allow you to exchange an unhealthy addiction for one that invigorates, inspires and ignites a spark of magnificence in you.

Here is a list of processes that we recommend for making happiness your new addiction:

1. Be open to being happy. Without an open mind and an open heart no one can create lasting positive change.

2. Believe that being happy is possible and can happen to you. Without belief, you cannot change your reality which includes your experiences, circumstances and situations.

3. Take full responsibility for your life. No one can truly be happy if they refuse to take charge of their own life. Being responsible is empowering and being empowered is being happy.

4. Learn how to ‘accept what is.’ Life happens! Every moment presents us with a new set of obstacles and challenges. Instead, see them as opportunities. Through acceptance, we open the door to solutions. We can then move with Life rather than being at its’ mercy.

5. Embrace the power of forgiveness. Forgiveness is the only remedy for unhappiness. Forgiveness frees us from the bondage of all our suffering inflicted upon us by others and by the suffering we inflict upon ourselves.

6. Become a living example of happiness. To experience happiness requires you to embrace it. This means being open to it, believing it has value and being responsible for the form it takes in your life. It also means you are willing to forgive, let go of the past and begin each day with a clean slate.

Right now, in this moment, you may see your life situation as a problem; an enemy of sorts. This is not the case! Consider that your one and only problem is your one and only addiction: unhappiness.

When you really ‘get’ what the two of us are saying here you are on the road to recovery! Unhappiness no more! The road to recovering your life is making happiness yours!

Are you ready to be happier? Contact us for a complementary ‘Live Your Dream Life Coaching Session.’

Jon Satin and Chris Pattay – The Possibility Coaches™
©2015 Possibility Coaches, LLC

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happiness

In God We Trust

In God We Trust. These are the words inscribed on American currency. Our forefathers knew something special, spiritual and perhaps mystical when they adopted these words. Have we forgotten what they knew? Have we decided to live our lives by standards that lack trust in God and in any creative power including ourselves?

In God We Trust
In God We Trust
I believe we, as a people, have turned our backs on God. When I speak of and write the word ‘God’ I specifically am referring to the Power that is in all including you and me. If you know, as I do, that God lives in each of us, then the question to ask is “If we don’t trust God, are we simply not trusting ourselves?”

I believe that this one question defines in totality for us all, the purpose of our human experience. Yes, to trust God is to trust our Self. Trust, which is an aspect of faith, is also found in the power of unconditional love. Therefore, to trust ourselves means to have faith in our Godliness, which is the power of unconditional love.

For decades I grappled with God. As a teen, I felt God ‘lost my file.’ He had somehow forgotten me. I felt lost among the masses of the billions of others he had forsaken, too.

Later, I doubted his existence. After that I got really pissed off at him. I tried every which way to turn my life into the way I thought it ‘should be.’
Then, one day, I realized that I had exhausted every plan to control my world and have it be the way I wanted it to be. The result, however, was always a no-win situation. There was no one or no thing that could give me what I wanted more than anything else. You see, the realization for me, which was my awakening, was that all I ever wanted was the Peace of God.

When I ran out of ‘human options’ I turned my life over to Him/Her. Put another way, I turned my life over to that part of me that is changeless and eternal. That part of me that knows no fear, no disease and no death.

All I did was to make the decision FOR God. I will share with you that when I did this, it became extremely liberating emotionally, mentally and physically.

From that moment my life became simplified. My life flowed with ease. I had two goals from that point forward: to experience the Peace of God and to be of service to the world in some capacity.

No more doubt! No more drama! No more strategic planning! I gave my spiritual Self permission to run the show called ‘My Life.’ My human, socially conditioned, follow –the-herd little self, now has only one function: to navigate, to be the vehicle, the body, that transports the ‘In God I Trust’ me from one moment to the next.

So how did I move from turning my back on God to allowing the Power that is God use me as a vessel? I really didn’t ‘do’ anything. Looking back it was my willingness to let go of a long list of fear-based attributes, beliefs and behaviors that caused me to suffer and return home to who I and you truly are at our core.

Here’s the ‘short list’ of what it was that I let go of. Imagine we are like onions and each layer is an aspect of fear we want to remove and discard. Removing and discarding fear. For me, and perhaps you, too, it was fear of:
1. Trusting God
2. Loving myself and my life
3. Loving other people
4. Letting the world see the true me
5. Feeling joy (which is feeling the God Power)
6. Living in the mystery
7. My greatness

Look at my list. Read my list over and over about what I was fearful of for way too long. What a paradox! That which I feared most, was really what I was seeking all along!

Trusting God. Loving myself and my life unconditionally. Loving other people unconditionally. Being authentic. Feeling joy. Living in the mystery. Acknowledging my greatness. It’s a process. Be patient. Have faith. This works!

To live by the words ‘In God We Trust’ requires each of us to make the decision ‘In God I Trust.’

My wish for you is that you make the decision I did and live by these words! If you haven’t done so already, I trust you will! Peace!

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God

God

Living Life from the Inside-Out

how to be happy in life
how to be happy in life

Is it time that you learned how to be happy in life? Would you like to be happy, joyous and peaceful most of the time? It is possible when you learn the formula for living life from the inside-out.

If happiness, joy and peace are not present in your, life do not despair.  You can learn how to be happy in life. Positive change is possible if you are willing to be the person necessary to create it.  We know you are asking, ‘How do I change?’  The answer is by becoming aware of the person you want to be, and working with the ‘inside-out’ formula, you can literally transform yourself from within.

There is, however one step you must take before proceeding with the ‘living life from the inside-out’ formula.  That step is to understand the formula you are currently using to live your life.  This is will put you on the right track and help you understand how to be happy in life. If you find yourself generally unhappy, anxious, stressed, depressed and trying to function in a seemingly chaotic world, then you are living your life from the ‘outside-in.’  To assist you to understand how the two formulas for living life operate, lets briefly look at each of them.

Most of the world lives from the ‘outside-in’ and here’s why: at a very young age our elders teach us to identify with the physical and material world.  By age two, we have already formulated a tight bond with ‘things.’  By the time we learn to speak we are very proficient with the word ‘my.’  ‘My toys.’  ‘My room.’  ‘My ice cream cone.’ My, my, my! Living your life from the outside-in is will not put you n the path of understanding how to be happy in life.

As children, we quickly come to realize that in order to have anything, we had to perform a certain way to get it.  Things or possessions are not only material and physical items.  There was very little emphasis place on how to be happy in life. They are non-physical like academic grades, sports trophies, medals, titles, prestige, reputations and love.  Like our physical possessions, we are given a similar formula for achieving status, popularity and fame.

From childhood, we believe, based on what we see and what we are told, that having things is the prerequisite for being somebody.  This, friends, is living life from the ‘outside-in.’  This is living life backwards.  We call this the ‘living life backwards formula’ or the ‘HAVE-DO-BE’ approach to life.

It is the foundation most of us have been taught to build our lives upon and it sounds something like this:  ‘When I have the perfect career and make oodles of money, I will be able to buy whatever I want, go wherever I want, whenever I want, and even have whoever I want! Then, everyone will notice me and I’ll be somebody!’  If you are approaching life this way, it is likely you are rowing against the current and you may even have one oar.

Do you strive to HAVE knowledge, possessions and money so you may be able to DO those things that are important to you so you will BE somebody and ultimately feel good about yourself?  Living life this way can and will cause disharmony and disease in your physical body and jeopardize your emotional well-being.  Ultimately, you will spend your whole life trying to gather evidence that will support who you think and say you are.  You allow the ‘outside’ world to control and create your ‘inside’ world.  The end result is one of dissatisfaction, lack of fulfillment and unhappiness because you will always find evidence to convince yourself that you have not achieved enough and are not good enough to be who you want to be.

We tend to forget that we are human ‘beings’ and not human ‘doings.’  As human beings, our natural, inborn intention is to live life from the inside-out formula.  We call this the BE-DO-HAVE approach to life.

Consider living your life by this new approach. To start using this approach you will want to affirm who you want to be.  Remember, this is not about ‘things’ like possessions, titles and reputations.  Perhaps you will affirm to be happier, be more loving, be more compassionate,  be more committed, be more understanding, be more tolerant, be more patient, be more truthful.  Do you get the picture?

To ‘be’, without ‘doing’ or ‘having’, requires a willingness to change and is an act of courage on your part.  You are proclaiming who you are ‘inside’ without seeking any evidence ‘outside’ of yourself to support or validate it.  It is an unconditional state of being.

So, let us ask you:  can you be happier just for the sake of being happier?  Can you be more loving just for the sake of giving love? Can you be more committed to yourself, your relationships, your job, so you know no matter what, you are giving your all?

When you decide and declare who you want to ‘be’, doors will open and opportunity will knock on a regular basis. This requires trust and patience. Living life from the ‘inside-out’ (BEING) will guide you to take inspired action (DOING) to become the person you affirm yourself to be.  As a result, you will possess those qualities and things (HAVING) that truly give you a tremendous sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

Now that you know about the ‘BE-DO-HAVE’ approach to living life from the inside-out, you can begin to take the steps to become empowered because of who you are and not because of what you do or don’t do and have or don’t have.

It’s never too late to stop living life backwards.  Start today by being the change you want to see!  So ask yourself, who am I becoming?

how to be happy in life

how to be happy in life

how to be happy in life